Hello From The Other Side!

Helllloooooo from the other side!

This is my husband, who is now a college grad!

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He was in line beside the really tall guy, which made him easy to spot in the crowd of graduates.  Cameron managed to last about 45 minutes seated, which just barely got us through the keynote speaker, before he got squirmy and awkward glances started coming my way from other attenders.  So for the rest of the ceremony I chased Cameron up and down a large ramp and kept poking my head inside the door of the upstairs balcony to make sure that it wasn’t Jon’s turn yet.  

When he walked across the stage I swear it was like watching him walk across dry land through the Red Sea.  My husband did something that I don’t think many people could do.  Three years of holding down a stressful full-time job while going to school at a public school that’s often compared to the Ivy League ones and still managing to be a good husband to the mother of a newborn, turned adventurous toddler.  At times when I was having an especially hard day either physically or emotionally, Jon would skip a class to come home and help.  He would say, “I want you to know that you always come first.”  Then he would either trust that the Lord would help him make up what he missed in the class and/or he would stay up until 2 a.m. to finish the homework he could have completed earlier, but chose to have dinner and help put Cameron to bed instead.

During the last three years, our marriage has deepened a lot.  For me, the most significant thing I’ve experienced is a deep confidence that my husband will do anything for me and for our family (except cook meth, because we watched Breaking Bad so we know how that would turn out).  I wasn’t worried when I married him, but now I’ve seen in action that I do not ever need to doubt my husband’s commitment.  I’m sure during difficult times in our future where I’m crazy angry or in a season of dryness I will look back on this time and be reminded of my husband’s love and intention toward me.

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Something I’m really thankful for right now:  The fact that these two are finally going to have some quality time together!  And the timing is perfect because Cameron will turn two next week and he is in a stage where Jon can play with him and teach him how to do new things now.  Cameron is an observer and when he witnesses someone doing something, he immediately wants to try it himself.  I can already see him having a great work ethic as he grows up because when he’s trying to do something he is unwilling to stop until he’s succeeded.  This is a trait that he can thank Jon’s DNA for.

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Even though all this mushy stuff is very true, to be perfectly honest, our last week in San Luis Obispo was terrible.  Jon had bronchitis and barely slept in order to finish his final papers and cram for finals, I came down with the flu, the only piece of “furniture” left in our apartment was an air mattress (flu+air mattress=the worst combination ever), Cameron was fussy and hardly napping because all his toys were gone and our apartment felt chaotic since we were living out of suitcases, and on top of all this we were trying to clean our apartment, get the last bits of our random stuff shoved into our cars and then run to the store to grab another on-the-go meal when we realized none of us had eaten yet that day.  Plus there was a graduation party to be had – which would have been cancelled had two of my sweetest friends not taken over on the day of, done the shopping and basically made it all happen.

So the day before this lovely family photo was taken I had a 104 degree fever and each person in our family was pretty much falling apart.  We all basically crawled to the finish line.  Then the day we left San Luis Obispo I came down with Bronchitis and then spent my first two weeks in our new home on the couch and miserable.  It’s been a month now and I’m still coughing frequently.

BUT, THANK YOU LORD that somehow my sicknesses subsided during graduation day and the day after while we went to church for the last time in SLO and then had the long-awaited graduation party.

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Being on the other side is full of possibilities and also some unforeseen challenges.  Something I didn’t expect was the frustration that can happen when two people who have been living one way suddenly get thrown into a new environment.  We went from a lifestyle of constant pressure to one where we have three weeks just to hang out together before Jon began his new job.  So lately we’ve experienced a lot of extremes; times of great closeness and also moments of intense anger because in so many ways we are having to get to know each other all over again.  Change makes a Pitbull out of all of us.

However, something incredible we are both feeling is the freedom of possibilities opening up.  For three years now, we have had to talk about things in a “someday” fashion.  As in, “Someday we should talk more about that,” or “When you’re done with school we should…”  But now, all of a sudden there’s the exciting sense that if God asked us to do something today, we could start doing it tomorrow!  So new dreams are opening up and we finally get to make plans for the now.

And Jon really likes his new job.
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Cam loves having more room to play.
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Side note: The Rhyme Bible is such an awesome Bible for toddlers.  Cam and I have made a habit of waking up in the morning and pouring milk for him and making coffee for me.  Then we sit on the couch, each with our Bibles.  For the first bit of time I remind him it’s quiet reading time, so he flips through the pages and looks at the pictures.  Sometimes he will be done reading before I’m ready to move on so while I finish I’ll ask him to go get out his train set or blocks.  On days where I wake up to a rough start, sometimes I grab my Dr. Sears book on discipline (The Discipline Book) to get some quick practical advice and just pray for the Holy Spirit’s help.

Cameron and his Bible.  They are only about $10 with Amazon Prime.
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I’m sharing this because this is the only way I’ve discovered so far for me to carve out some focused time for the Lord in my day during this season.  I know this won’t work when I have school aged kids so I’ll have to find a different method then, but for right now it’s a great way for me to have some nice wake up time in the morning and a way to introduce Cameron to the importance of finding a way to begin the day abiding in God’s love and presence.

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One thing I’m excited about is our home and how it is beginning to feel like such a warm and welcoming place.  For the past few years we haven’t been able to host very many people at our place.  Our apartment was small and an awkward layout for guests, so we rarely wanted to have people over.  We still did occasionally, but once Jon was a few weeks into each quarter it became impossible to make plans in the evenings with friends.  He never knew ahead of time how much homework he would have on a certain evening so we had to protect our evenings for school work and for any bit of family time we could get.

But now, now I have a real dining table and a real kitchen that isn’t so overstuffed that items are constantly falling out of cupboards.  So one of my dreams for this year is to make it normal for us to invite people into our home and have new faces around our dinner table.  I also have a goal of making more meals from scratch.  I just discovered a PBS series online called Kitchen Vignettes.  They are 3-ish minute video montages of cooking/baking set to music.  Watch just one and you will be inspired to make something new.

At the moment we are visiting some churches as we pray for the Lord to direct us to a church family that we can call home.  We are eager to find a place where we can start building the kind of relationships with people that will help us grow and experience God more, but in the meantime it’s been great to experience how each church body in unique because of the unique people that comprise it.  Walking into a brand new place and instantly feeling connected to a hundred people that you’ve never met before is so sweet.  It’s incredible how knowing and loving the same person can instantly bond complete strangers.  (Since writing this post, we have actually found a church that felt like home as soon as we walked in.  I’m excited to share more about this sometime soon when I get the chance to write about it).

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In case you don’t know, my family just moved to Rio Vista, California.  It’s a lovely rural location, central to San Fransisco, Sacramento and a bunch of other cities like Vacaville, Davis, Antioch, Fairfield and more.  We are discovering more things we love about this area all the time.  It’s fairly close to the mountains, Yosemite and Tahoe.  Many drives take us through beautiful countryside or along the Sacramento river.

Tahoe is just a quick three hour drive away.
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In the countryside are wide open fields full of cattle and sheep grazing; many of them the same cattle and sheep that my husband will be overseeing.  Its a fifteen minute drive from our house to the closest Bart stop where we can hop on and it will take us straight into San Fransisco so we won’t have to deal with traffic or ridiculous parking prices.  We are also excited to venture into the mountains to try out some backpacking, fly fishing, hunting and boating on the river.

We were sad to trade in the beaches, but we are finding that there may actually be more opportunities for adventure here; for things we love to do or that we would love to try.  I don’t mean to make it sound like I’m bragging about where we live – I think anytime you move to a new place things feel exciting and fresh and you fall in love with the place, even if later on you end up hating everything about it.  Plus, I think I’m naturally someone who thrives on new environments.  It tends to bring out the best version of myself.

Here’s the spur of the moment late Christmas picture we took last week before we discarded our tree.  I get to be the creative director and set designer for these lovely family photos each year and Jon gets to be the production team and camera man.  This was the first family Christmas photo that didn’t involve someone crying or cussing, so we considered it a success.

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Last year we took our photo right at sunset, on big wet rocks at the ocean…

155813_10100618980235713_1319873864_n  The sun was setting quickly, everyone was cold and I kept telling Jon, “You better get this picture right because there is no way we are getting ready and coming out here again to do this!”  On the walk back to the car we were saying to each other how taking a Christmas photo sure hadn’t been a very merry experience.  Yet we do it every year…

We were all actually happy when we took this photo last week after visiting the Sacramento Zoo so I will end on a good note.

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We’re Moving

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Five and a half years ago I bought a one way ticket to San Luis Obispo, California.  Seriously, it’s beautiful here.  And this view is only ten minutes from my house…

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I felt like God was leading me to come here.

So I did.

The day after I arrived, I met my husband.

I fell in love him, the California Coast and the sunny weather.

My life became more full of good friends, community and Jesus than I had ever experienced before.

Jon and I got married on a beautiful hillside, surrounded by great people.

A year later we found out that Cameron existed.

Honestly, the last five years have been the most wonderful whirlwind, full of ups and downs of course, but shimmering in the light of God’s lavish grace.

And now,

We feel that God is leading us somewhere new.  Northern California, to be more specific.

After Jon has spent the last three years running the gauntlet of working full time and going to school full time, the Lord has provided him with his dream job.  Amen 🙂

He’s going to wear cowboy boots to work and drive a pick-up truck.  He’s going to come home smelling like sheep and cattle.  Jon has always been oddly passionate about sheep and red meat, so the fact that he is transitioning into the Agricultural Industry feels like we got sprinkled with a bit of magic destiny dust.

So our hearts are sad to leave behind a place that we love and people who are dear to our hearts, but we also go with the expectation that letting the Lord lead our lives is always the best, and really the only, option.  So we make the move in December.  We will live in either Davis, Dixon, Rio Vista or Vacaville (all just outside of Sacramento), but we still have a lot of details to figure out.

So goodbye beaches – I will truly miss you! – and hello country swag.

Sunday Morning In Bed


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Jon is recovering from Strep Throat.

I woke up with a sore throat.  (And a hundred other things from being pregnant).

Therefore, Cameron is all dressed for church and confused by why we are staying home.

I am so happy to be having another baby, but already ready to be done with being pregnant.  Despite the beautiful motherly glow, I’m remembering how awful it feels to have my body invaded by an alien fetus who dictates everything I feel from his/her little control center in my abdomen.  It might sound harsh or negative, but I think this time around since everything I’m experiencing isn’t new or ‘a first’ I’m a bit quicker to call it like I see it.

However, I will say that I am immeasurably grateful to not be spending this pregnancy working a desk job, which is probably the worst thing ever.

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So I started my morning with a few saltines and decided to stop scrolling Facebook (again) when I decided to listen to a sermon instead.

I found and listened to a great sermon called Audacious Community by Josh Martin in Pullman, Washington.  I’ve been really intrigued by this whole idea of community and church lately.  Like whenever I hear it being talked about my ears perk up and I listen a bit more closely.

How is the church supposed to be different than other types of community that you can find through a book club or a sports team?  That is what I’m trying to figure out; or more like what I feel like God has been wanting to reveal to me lately.  I think because I’ve been realizing lately that where community is lacking, sin prevails.  A person, myself for example, can hear a hundred good messages from a pastor, but without being a part of an authentic Christian community where the gospel can be lived out and experienced relationally, real growth and change is stifled and people remain lonely.  And God created it to work that way.

Anyway, Josh’s message is great if you have a chance to listen to it.

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Jon, even though he’s not feeling well himself, decided to give me a break by picking me up a chai latte and taking Cameron to the park.  My husband has always been sweet and caring towards me, but whenever I’ve been pregnant he is over the top.  My selfish self likes to say, “Hey, why aren’t you like that all the time?”  But when I really think about it, it’s very endearing and sweet that when I’m pregnant he naturally becomes more nurturing and wants to take care of everything for me.  He’s a really good man.

SIDE NOTE: Chai lattes are awesome when you’re pregnant because they only have *35-55 grams of caffeine per serving, while drip coffee has 100-150 grams of caffeine per serving.  Oregon Chai is the best chai if you ask me.  No matter how hard I try, I just can’t get used to decaf coffee.

K, time for a nap.  Peace.

*The caffeine content above is for Oregon Chai.  Starbucks Tazo Chai has more caffeine: Tall = 75 mg, and a Grande = 100mg

My Reading List: 7 Years Of God & Relationships

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The other day, my friend asked me what kind of books I like to read.

I told her I didn’t really read novels, but that I wasn’t sure how to classify my literary taste.  That question got me to thinkin’ and later that day I started making a list in my head of the books I’ve read in the past seven years or so. I discovered that I do in fact have a literary taste.  God and relationships.  Made sense because I guess you could say that those are the two most important things to me.  I read books to learn and I watch TV for entertainment.  And I guess you could say that in each new and different stage of life I’ve felt the need for as much godly influence I could get!

So, I wanted to share my reading list because if you’re anything like me, you’d prefer to read a book that someone recommends versus just picking up one randomly.  There’s a few more that I’ve read that aren’t included because I only wanted to share my favorites about God and relationships.

Single

When God Writes Your Love Story, Eric Ludy & Leslie Ludy

Passion & Purity, Elizabeth Elliot

Boy Meets Girl, Joshua Harris

Wild At Heart, John Eldredge

Captivating, John Eldredge & Stasi Eldredge k

The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman

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Dating

….apparently I was too busy dating to read any books because I can’t remember ANY from this time period… k
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Engaged

This Momentary Marriage, John Piper

For Men Only, Shaunti Feldhahn & Jeff Feldhahn

For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn

Sheet Music, Dr. Kevin Leman (Read when almost married) k
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Married

The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Love & Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

What’s It Like To Be Married To Me, Linda Dillow

The Blessing: Giving the Gift of Unconditional Love and Acceptance, Jon Trent & Gary Smalleyk

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Mom

52 Things Kids Need From a Mom, Angela Thomas

Bringing Up Boys, Dr. James Dobson k
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Books I plan on reading:

Grace Based Parenting, Tim Kimmel

One Thousand Gifts, Ann Voskamp

The New Strong-Willed Child, Dr. James Dobson

Also, if you’re in need of a book about specific issues, my go-t0 book resource is Focus On The Family.

Living A Dream

Yesterday I got to experience my husband living out one of his childhood dreams.

We joined Chris and Megan and we road tripped up to San Fransisco to watch the 49ers play.  The babies got sat on by some great caretakers and all four of us got a day to eat nachos and hang out.

Ever since I met Jon he’s always talked about having great seats at a Niner game.  Two years ago I bought four tickets to surprise him with.  We went to a game.  But we sat second to last row behind the end zone with our friends Ryan and Kelli.  We couldn’t see anything happening on the field.  So we bought garlic fries and beer to entertain ourselves and watched a nice fellow nearby puke his guts out before getting escorted out by security.

Here’s a pic from 2010:

But yesterday we got to experience the game from some amazing, dream-like seats!  I had a blast because it was actually a great football game and lots of excitement in the last quarter and into overtime.  But yesterday what made me even more happy was to see my husband doing something he’s always wanted to do.

Such a serious game watcher…


Only problem is that now fulfilling his dream has inspired more dreams of experiencing  high qualityNFL bliss.

Hey, well, it never hurts to dream!

Whistle While You Work

I woke up on this Monday morning to my mess from the weekend.

Jon spent the weekend trying to catch up on his statistics homework, so I spent the day Saturday with my friend Kaleigh and her son Everett who is five weeks younger than Cameron.  Kaleigh and her family will soon be moving out onto a ranch, so on Saturday morning, Kaleigh and I packed up the babes and headed out to the ranch to feed the horses.  Cameron got to pet his first horse: a brown one named Big Willy.  We ate some lunch and then with the boys strapped to us in their packs, Kaleigh drove us around on the ATV.  She is definitely a country girl at heart and one hard working mama.

Oh yeah, and I ate a maple bacon donut from SLO Donut Co on Saturday too.  It’s so good I wish I could explain to you how good it is.  If you’ve never been to SLO, it’s worth visiting here just to try this thing!

On Sunday after church, I took a much needed two and a half hour nap with Cameron while Jon did homework.  Then Sunday evening we got ready and raced over to the beach to attempt to take some Christmas card photos before the sun went down.  I have never sent out a Christmas photo and I’ve still not gotten around to Cameron’s birth announcement so this time around I’m starting early because I’m determined to change this pattern.  It was a beautiful night, but we now have some funny memories because it was quite stressful trying to get some good shots before it got dark.

Thus, because my weekend was void of any real housework, I’m greeted this Monday morning with a dirty kitchen, diapers that need to be washed, and an array of clutter along with long to-do lists.

Sometimes when I wake up to this scenario I instantly feel behind.  Like I will spend my day digging out of a hole just to get back to ground zero.  And sometimes that makes me feel, oh I dunno…bad?  Sometimes I resent the chores I have to do.  Sometimes I rush through them in hopes of getting around to something more meaningful later on…

But this morning my husband reminded me that there is great meaning and joy to be found in doing the simple things that serve my family.  Of course, having a cup of coffee with a friend may be more relaxing or enjoyable, but I can enjoy doing my housework.  I can spend all day talking to my Lord and taking lots and lots of breaks to play with Cam and attempt to make him laugh.  Being a wife and a mother is a great responsibility and it’s better to put away the dishes joyfully than to clank them around begrudgingly, right?

By the way, in the past few days Cam has started waving.  Oh my heavens it is the cutest thing I’ve ever seen!!!

He has also started saying Mama and frequently yells out “Bah!”  It seems to mean a lot of things.

Last week it was in the 90’s in SLO, gah!  So far this week is off to a cooler start.  I love the California sun, but I’m ready for fall.

Young Life Banquet

We are finally home.

It’s almost midnight and Cameron is still wide awake.

There are pots, pans, dirty plates and silverware, chafing dishes, coolers and left overs all over our apartment.

Tonight Jon catered a Young Life banquet.  We spent Saturday and Sunday shopping and prepping food and today was the big day.

Catering is a wild ride, but it’s what my husband loves to do and it’s his dream to have a full time catering business someday.  I know he will because he’s extremely gifted at cooking for large amounts of people and he’s currently in school learning about business.

It’s funny though, because we have yet to cater an event at a venue that makes sense.  Have you ever seen the show Dinner Impossible? Somehow all our events end up being a little like that.

But these crazy events make memories that I will never forget:

  • Rushing to the store when we forget something important
  • Forcing my husband to drink a glass of water halfway through the day so he doesn’t get a headache
  • Transporting big pans of food to the event site
  • Coming home and collapsing on the couch
  • Spending the next week washing and putting all the catering equipment back into our storage unit (actually, I really hate this part)
  • Seeing my husband do something he loves to do

The picture above is the only picture I managed to take today.  I was supposed to take lots of really good shots of the food with our nice camera, but as usual, once things got rolling I didn’t have a second to spare and taking pictures ended up at the bottom of the priorities list.

Someday I will have great pictures to share from Kidwell Catering, but for now they are just still-frames in my mind.

But trust me, the food was amazing!

Baby Problems – Hot Problems parody

A couple girls from SLO High posted a video called Hot Problems a week and a half ago and it’s gone viral.  And seriously, who doesn’t love to hate on an awesomely bad viral video???

So, us Kidwells needed to have a little fun today on Jon’s lunch break.  So we busted out the camcorder and made a little YouTube magic.

So, click here to view the original video.

And click here to see ours.

Don’t Go To Bed With Dirty Dishes In The Sink

There’s a Bible verse that goes a little something like this:

“And don’t sin by letting anger control you.  Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry.” (NLT)

“Dont’ stay angry.  Don’t go to bed angry.  Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.”  (The Message)

~Ephesians 4:26 

Lately, I have had a lot of dirty dishes in my sink.  And let me clarify: I NEVER have dirty dishes in my sink.  Maybe a pot or two here and there, but never a full sink of dishes.

But lately…

with a husband who works full time and does school full time, with a new baby, and with…I dunno…just life happening, I keep finding my kitchen sink overflowing with dirty dishes.

It’s gross.  It’s annoying.  Seriously,who wants to be my nanny???

So earlier tonight I took a bath. It was the first bath I’ve taken since having little Cameron enter my world.

The baby was in bed, so I poured a glass of wine, grabbed a candy bar from my stash and headed upstairs with my book “What’s It Like To Be Married To Me?”  (And yes, I’m still reading this book – one chapter each month- and discussing it with The Better Wives Club.)

I started reading and God spoke to me.

“Erin, don’t go to bed with dirty dishes in the sink.”

I knew what my Heavenly Father meant.

God wasn’t addressing my housekeeping.

He was addressing my heart.

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Lately my marriage has felt so different.  I’ve been trying to adjust.

I’ve been frustrated.

At what, I don’t know…. just frustrated.

Frustrated at the circumstances.  Frustrated at Jon at times (I don’t like to admit it, but it’s true).  Frustrated at myself for being frustrated at the circumstances and at Jon.

School.  Going back to work soon.  Changes.  More changes.  Getting up at night.  Managing a home.  Jon’s job.  Not being able to shower…or do anything exactly when I want to.  Cooking dinner every night.  Changes.  Finances.  Car breaking down.  AHHHH!!!!

Having a baby is the most miraculous event I think I will ever witness in my life.  It’s beautiful and amazing.  But then you go home from the hospital and real life eventually catches up to you.  And then you have to fight to keep viewing things as beautiful and amazing because trials and pressures and changes come and threaten it all.

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The thing about dirty dishes is this: you can leave them in the sink, turn off the light and go to bed…but when you wake up in the morning and walk into the kitchen to make the coffee,

they are still there,

staring you in the face,

stinking up the whole kitchen.

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Right now, the chapter I’m reading in my book is called, “Is It Possible To Grow Together When Things Fall Apart?”  Things aren’t necessarily falling apart right now, but they sure are different than they used to be and sometimes that can make things feel like they are falling apart.  So I’ve been thinking a lot about my marriage lately and praying about how Jon and I can stay close and grow closer even though life just got flipped upside down.

“Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides.” (The Message) James 1:2

l was reminded tonight that trials will come, but that the key is to not let resentment, bitterness or anger pile up in my sink.  Because if I do, they will still be there in the morning – and that is not a great way to start the day.  One or two dishes at a time will only take a few moments to clean, but a whole sink full is a daunting task to deal with.

The author of the book paraphrases James 1:2 this way:

“Rejoice in the trials you face as a couple; they will teach you perseverance and make your love and commitment to one another strong.  They will produce character, a strength that will lead to intimacy.”

Beautiful.

That is what I want and that is what I’m trusting God for.

So, yes, my literal kitchen sink is still full of dirty dishes.

But spiritually, my heart is cleaned up and so now I’m ready for bed.

Good night!

Weekend To Remember Marriage Conference

This past weekend, Jon and I packed our bags full of winter clothing and headed to Yosemite National Park for our final pre-baby getaway.  We left town on a Thursday morning so that we’d have all day Friday to explore Yosemite before the conference started Friday night.  We saw some wildlife, waterfalls, giant Sequoias and of course, the famous rock formations that border Yosemite.  We also got to enjoy some overpriced cafeteria food and hot chocolate when we stopped to grab lunch in the park.

The Weekend To Remember marriage conference is something that Family Life, a ministry of Campus Crusade For Christ, puts on at different locations around the world for couples ranging from young to old, newly married or even pre-married to seasoned marriage veterans.  People go to strengthen their already good marriages and others go as a last resort when their marriage relationship is crumbling and they’ve lost hope.

For us, the weekend was everything I guess you’d expect a marriage conference to be: fun, difficult, refining…It’s amazing what God will do when you set aside time specifically to hear from him and grow.  When we showed up to the first session on Friday night I was thinking to myself, “Well, our marriage definitely isn’t on the rocks, in fact I think it’s pretty good, so I’m not sure what exactly I’m going to get out of this thing.”  But by mid morning Saturday I was extremely grateful that we were there, that God was working in our marriage and helping us understand each other’s needs better now versus months or even years down the road.  Because even though sometimes things are good and they “work”, it doesn’t mean that they are as good as they could be and the best that God has to offer.

So our time there was amusing.  You’d see couples around the hotel campus on romantic walks or smooching in the elevator and a few hours later you’d see the same couples walking three feet apart with scowls on their faces probably because they were working through some difficult issues in their lives.  Same went for us.  It was a weekend of ups and downs, but ultimately, by the time we were in the car to drive home we had a renewed oneness and excitement about our relationship and future together.

I met a really cute old couple one time – they came into the radio station where I work to drop something off – and they started talking about their marriage because at the time I was engaged and the woman noticed the ring on my finger and asked me about it.  They said that every year they do something to invest in their marriage.  Whether it’s a conference, a vacation, or something else special, they said the important thing is to do something every year that strengthens your relationship.  John Piper says the same thing.  Each year on his anniversary, him and his wife go away somewhere together and along with just enjoying each other’s company, they spend time talking and praying about how their marriage is going.

Probably more than anything else from this weekend, I took away a renewed sense of joy about my marriage.  It’s so important.  Even though marriage is very much just part of the day to day routine and like anything else it can grow tiresome just doing doing doing things because you’re supposed to be doing them, it really is such an amazing gift that God has given us to allow us to experience all that He is, all the more.

If anyone is interested in attending a Weekend To Remember,you can sign up through my group KidwellFriends and get half off your registration fee.

It’s worth it.